It is the small lessons in life that require our complete attention, and not the huge, wailing issues that are our greatest teachers. I find lately that I am much more dialed in to the subtle prerequisites for my life as a mother that are proving the greatest tests of my aptitude for the job.
I often fail.
But, sometimes I pass. Being patient is not one of my strengths. This proves to serve me well in a career as a sales person, however not so much in my post as a mother.
My daughter is five, going on Hannah Montana. She is filled with snappy answers, piss and vinegar, self confidence and outright defiance. She makes me so proud! I am learning from her that getting the answer I want is not always the answer that I need. I am learning from her that listening is a far more important part of communication than speaking. I am learning from her that she may be incorrect, but she is not wrong.
I am learning from her that in order to teach her the grace necessary to be a good looser, or to admit being incorrect, I have to allow myself to be human and make mistakes. I am learning that once I detach my ego from an issue I am a much better detective in my search for a solution.
These are not easy lessons and they can be subtle and easily missed. If I am patient however, if I listen, if I make it about the issue and not about me…..I am finding myself worthy of at least a B+ in this course. Yeah!
I often fail.
But, sometimes I pass. Being patient is not one of my strengths. This proves to serve me well in a career as a sales person, however not so much in my post as a mother.
My daughter is five, going on Hannah Montana. She is filled with snappy answers, piss and vinegar, self confidence and outright defiance. She makes me so proud! I am learning from her that getting the answer I want is not always the answer that I need. I am learning from her that listening is a far more important part of communication than speaking. I am learning from her that she may be incorrect, but she is not wrong.
I am learning from her that in order to teach her the grace necessary to be a good looser, or to admit being incorrect, I have to allow myself to be human and make mistakes. I am learning that once I detach my ego from an issue I am a much better detective in my search for a solution.
These are not easy lessons and they can be subtle and easily missed. If I am patient however, if I listen, if I make it about the issue and not about me…..I am finding myself worthy of at least a B+ in this course. Yeah!
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